Anal sex requires extra care due to the thin walls of the anus, lack of natural lubrication, and the presence of sphincter muscles that instinctively contract when touched. Therefore, to engage in anal sex comfortably and safely, it is essential to follow certain guidelines. These recommendations include ensuring relaxation before penetration, initiating with gentle stimulation (with a finger or toy) and progressing gradually, maintaining open communication with your partner, and using ample amounts of lubrication.

Preparing for anal sex involves some preparation to ensure comfort, safety, and pleasure for all involved. Here are some tips on how to prepare:


It's crucial to have open and honest communication with your partner about sexual activities. Both partners should give enthusiastic and informed consent before engaging in sexual activity. Establish a safe word or signal with your partner to ensure open communication throughout the experience. This way, anyone can express discomfort and the need to stop or make adjustments as necessary.

Relaxation & Foreplay

When engaging in anal sex, it becomes especially crucial to let go of any mental distractions, be fully present, and cultivate a state of relaxation. Anal sex is best when you are not mentally distracted. You need to relax and be present at the moment. When you are not calm, your body has a defense mechanism, including the anus. The anal sphincter clenches when it is not relaxed, as something such as a finger or toy comes in contact with the anal opening. If you are tense or anxious, it can make it more challenging to enjoy anal sex. So, make sure to unwind and de-stress before anal sex. To enjoy anal sex and have a great experience, add lots of foreplay and slowly build arousal. Take it slow, and just have fun!

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The anus doesn't naturally lubricate like the vagina, so using a high-quality water-based lubricant is essential. Apply a generous amount of lube to the anus and the penetrating object (finger, sex toy, or penis). Reapply as necessary during sexual activity to maintain comfort.

Hygiene & Aftercare

Following anal sex, it is crucial to prioritize post-care to enhance comfort and overall well-being. This can involve gentle cleansing with an unscented wash, applying a soothing balm, and taking a warm bath. These practices contribute to a positive after-sex experience. We recommend our Kushae Sexual Wellness Kit, which comes with the Kushae Gentle 2-n-1 Foaming Wash, Kushae Boric Suppositories with Probiotics & Aloe, and Kushae Protective Skin Balm.

These three essential products are all you need to help you feel sexy, confident, and good down there for a more pleasurable and passionate sex life!

Here is why:

  • You can use the 2-n-1 Gentle Foaming Wash to stay clean, fresh, and moisturized "down there" before and after sex. Or use the foaming wash for a hot and steamy bubble bath for yourself or your partner.
  • The Boric Acid Suppositories can be used a day before having sex to freshen up your vagina and enjoy more intimacy with your partner. After sex, insert it to balance your pH since sex can throw off your pH balance. If you are prone to BV and yeast infections, use the suppositories as a gentle, natural, and safe alternative solution for treating and preventing these infections.
  • Lastly, use the Kushae Protective Skin Balm after sex to soothe the anus, vaginal canal, or vulva. The balm also works as a daily moisturizer between the thighs, cheeks, and under the breasts to protect the skin from chafing and irritation.

Remember, every individual and couple is different, and preferences can vary. Prioritize communication, consent, and respect throughout the entire experience. If you have any concerns or questions, consider consulting with a healthcare professional or a sex educator who can provide personalized guidance.

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This article is for informational purposes only. It is not, nor is it intended to be, a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment and should never be relied upon for specific medical advice.